Reflections in a time of stillness

Reflections in time of stillness, social distancing during corona virus

What a strange time we are in. 2020 started as per normal, new year solutions made, anticipation for what the year will bring and nothing of the sort of concern which revolves around a world wide pandemic of the Coronavirus and restricted movements for most parts of the world and here in Singapore.

What’s more, to be pregnant during this time and looking to shift into our new BTO! The start of the year was a steep learning curve for me as I had to adjust to the new life of being pregnant.

The circuit breaker period is a time of pause for me, an opportunity to take a break from rushing around trying to maximise the time to do everything possible. It’s a sudden shift of pace from the previous months during which every weekend we were out looking for things related to our house.

The first week of not leaving the house for non-essential needs felt stifling and hectic as I had to adjust to a new way of working. I wasn’t unfamiliar with working from home, but working from home for 5 days a week for weeks was a different matter. Personal and work time seem to blend into one and I have to intentionally try to draw distinctions between work and off work. There wasn’t the usual commute to help with the transition. So I made sure that I had to set up my work station every morning and close shop in the evening to give myself the signal that work has ended.

It was also strange to work in an environment where everyone was home. Fortunately, we had enough space in the house for everyone to have their personal space to do their own things for most parts of the day. Though I do find myself with lesser personal space and time to unwind and think.

To top things off, add the entire department trying to adjust to the new working style and making sure business is as usual, that is a whole set of challenges all together.

Now in this seemingly standstill, there are different things to do but no places to rush too. All at once, there seems to be more and less things to do. Because we are home all the time, I decided to cook more often to make sure we didn’t indulge in too much unhealthy food. (Also delivery fees really do add up quite a bit and there is only so many times a week I can eat from the same shop.)

So there was a lot more of washing, cleaning and preparing meals for not just myself. Something I am not used to do on a daily basis.

Time passes as fast even though I am not physically moving anywhere and I have gotten used to the rhythm of staying home most of the time. This week as we finish the month of April, I find myself more settled down and using the pockets of time that I have for reflection.

Thoughts on being a parent in Singapore

Thoughts on Being a Parent in Singapore, www.everydaychooselove.com

A mixed bag of feelings accompanies me on our journey to set up a family.

The decision to be a parent is never an easy one. Especially in an affluent society like Singapore where the majority of us are fortunate enough to not worry about putting food on the table. Our general concerns in life revolve around where to go for our next holiday and what shows to watch. We have the flexibility to be free, both economically and with our time.

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The Hard Truth of Financial Freedom: Are We Willing to Pay the Price?

The Hard Truth of Financial Freedom

Many of us want to be rich, but most of us are not willing to pay the price of being rich Mr. Loo Cheng Chuan, founder of the 1M65 (1 Million by 65) movement, shared this hard truth at the Seedly Personal Finance Festival 2019. His message is also my key take away for my journey towards financial freedom.

Achieving financial freedom requires hard work and sacrifices

Mr. Loo Cheng Chuan shared his origin story about how he strived and worked hard to make his mark despite the setbacks from the financial crisis. It is an inspiring story because so much of today’s news is about how successful individuals make money from quick wins: starting and selling profitable businesses or investing in high risks instruments like cryptocurrency. We tend to forget that these are rare and exceptional cases and most of the time, to achieve financial freedom, hard work and sacrifice are required to pave the way.

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Hidden Gems in Woodlands: Admiralty Park & Woodlands Waterfront

Hidden Gems in Woodlands, www.everydaychooselove.com

Sometimes all it takes is a little adventure to discover a different side of the city. Beyond the popularity of Hort Park and Bukit Timah Nature Reserve, there are two hidden gems in the highly urbanised estate of Woodlands.

Mention Woodlands, and the typical reaction you get is “Wah! So near Malaysia!” Besides the usual association with traffic jams at the Causeway, most would also think of industrial buildings and HDB flats.

Seldom would one think of a view like this:

Admiralty Park Mangrove, everydaychooselove.com

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What I learnt from a month of the no spend challenge

What I Learnt From The No Spend Challenge, spending detox

I constantly struggle with frivolous spending, so I am starting the new year with a no spend detox: no spend challenge for the month of January! Aside from the essential necessities like groceries and food, I am not to spend on anything else, including things like clothes, cooking accessories, tech toys, etc.

It’s now three weeks past January and here’s what I learnt:

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Let’s get awesome this 2019 🙌🏻

get awesome 2019, healthy, simple living, thrifty

As 2018 comes to an end, I found myself looking back on the year and wishing I did more with it – eating healthier, working out more often, being more thrifty and being more present when I am together with The Husband and people I love.

I’m making these wishes into my #2019goals. That being said, according to one study, 80% of New Year’s resolution fail by February. Not too much of a surprise there as I am a culprit of that too. To get my mindset right, I have been listening to Tony Robin’s audiobooks on the way to work in the mornings for the past few weeks. As a summary, this 4-step strategy to achieve any goal which he shared is useful to get things started.

Tony Robbins’ 4-step strategy to achieve any goal

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